Attachment Community | Anxious & Avoidant

How do I ask for reassurance when I have an anxious attachment style?

I can explain my attachment style in a paragraph and still act it out like I've never heard of it. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. Insi

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c/attachment·u/keisha_ward·16d ago

Can an anxious attachment person and an avoidant person ever actually work?

Secure people sound like a myth until you meet one and realize you don't know how to stand still. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've

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c/attachment·u/jules_moreau·26d ago

What does a secure attachment actually feel like? I've never had one.

I don't actually want to be difficult. I want to know I won't be left, and my tactics are leftover from earlier years. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps r

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c/attachment·u/will_harper·3mo ago

Does anyone else become obsessed with waiting for a text when they have anxious attachment?

Closeness feels like relief and a threat at the same time. It's exhausting. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've read the infographics.

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c/attachment·u/coffee_at_2am·2mo ago

What are the different attachment styles and do all individuals have an insecure attachment?

If they take longer than usual to reply, my whole body writes a breakup in the gap. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. Insight made me les

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c/attachment·u/3amthinker·2mo ago

What's it like to have an anxious-attachment style?

Secure people sound like a myth until you meet one and realize you don't know how to stand still. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I can

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c/attachment·u/quietmeetings·2mo ago

I have an anxious attachment style. I lash out at my partner. What should I do?

Closeness feels like relief and a threat at the same time. It's exhausting. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I can watch myself reach fo

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c/attachment·u/camila_ortiz·1mo ago

What is anxious attachment?

Closeness feels like relief and a threat at the same time. It's exhausting. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've read the infographics.

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c/attachment·u/owen_blake·3mo ago

How do I become more securely attached? I feel like I'm broken.

I don't actually want to be difficult. I want to know I won't be left, and my tactics are leftover from earlier years. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps r

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c/attachment·u/tara_singh·4mo ago

Why do I self-sabotage relationships when things get good?

If they take longer than usual to reply, my whole body writes a breakup in the gap. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've read the infog

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