c/attachment·Posted by u/keisha_ward·16d ago
Can an anxious attachment person and an avoidant person ever actually work?
Secure people sound like a myth until you meet one and realize you don't know how to stand still. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've read the infographics. I still refresh the thread. I figured if anyone would get it, it would be people here. What would you tell someone who is tired of trying and still not ready to give up?
Peer discussion on askDr.app. Not therapy and not a substitute for professional care.
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u/rosa_alvarez16d ago
Yes, with a LOT of work from both people. But it's the most common pairing — and the most painful.
u/keisha_ward16d ago
This is exactly it. Thank you for putting it into words.
u/inbox_anxiety16d ago
The avoidant and anxious attract because they each mirror the other's wound.