What is anxious attachment?

Closeness feels like relief and a threat at the same time. It's exhausting. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I've read the infographics. I still refresh the thread. I keep finding essays that sound right and still don't change Tuesday morning. If you crawled out of a similar hole, I want the unglamorous version of how.

Peer discussion on askDr.app. Not therapy and not a substitute for professional care.

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u/amber_cole 1mo ago
Anxious/dependent people cling, worry, need reassurance, and feel terrified of abandonment. They often choose partners who are unavailable, re-creating early childhood wounds.
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u/coffee_at_2am 1mo ago
The urge to 'get ahead of the abandonment' is so sneaky. Awareness helps; it doesn't erase it overnight.
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- u/diego_santos 1mo ago
  How long did it take before that started to feel true for you?
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