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c/general·5 points·29d ago
on What actually helped your mental health that you didn't expect?
Stopping alcohol. I thought it helped. It was making everything worse.
c/self-esteem·6 points·1mo ago
on I achieve things and still feel worthless. What is wrong with me?
Self-esteem built on achievement is conditional self-esteem. It collapses the moment you fail.
c/personality·12 points·2mo ago
on Why is emotional dysregulation in BPD so misunderstood?
Because outsiders see the behavior, not the pain underneath.
c/anxiety·2 points·3mo ago
on Are we anxious because we are too self-aware?
The 3 a.m. version of my brain is a terrible narrator. Daytime me has to clean up after it.
c/attachment·13 points·3mo ago
on How do I become more securely attached? I feel like I'm broken.
Secure attachment can be earned through consistent, corrective experiences — therapy, relationships, self-work.
c/attachment·2 points·3mo ago
on Does anyone else become obsessed with waiting for a text when they have anxious attachment?
If you have a specific practice that helped, I'd love the unglamorous version.
c/trauma·1 point·5mo ago
on Can you heal from trauma without going to therapy?
That last line landed. I'm going to sit with it.
c/relationships·5 points·5mo ago
on My partner is emotionally unavailable. How do I help them open up?
You can't open someone up. You can create safety and then let them choose.