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c/general·33 points·12d ago
on What is the best place to post about my life problems or depression?
A mirror. The only person who would stand by you through all your ups and downs is the person staring back at you. That person knows you inside out. But also — find a therapist and online communities like Reddit.
c/depression·25 points·18d ago
on How do I get out of a depressive rut I've been in for years?
The 'fine at work, empty at home' split is so lonely. I see you.
c/depression·7 points·1mo ago
on People usually ask me why I'm depressed. I never know how to explain it. How do I do it?
It's not your responsibility to oblige people. You could answer: 'I don't know why' — it's honest, and it puts the pressure back on them, not you.
c/attachment·17 points·1mo ago
Anxious/dependent people cling, worry, need reassurance, and feel terrified of abandonment. They often choose partners who are unavailable, re-creating early childhood wounds.
c/personality·4 points·2mo ago
on Why is emotional dysregulation in BPD so misunderstood?
BPD emotions are described as feeling like 3rd-degree burns all over your body. We have no emotional skin.
c/relationships·1 point·2mo ago
This is exactly it. Thank you for putting it into words.
c/attachment·1 point·2mo ago
on I have an anxious attachment style. I lash out at my partner. What should I do?
Yeah. The body gets there before the story does.
c/relationships·15 points·3mo ago
on How do you know when a relationship is actually over vs. just going through a hard phase?
When you stop fighting because you no longer care — that's the end. Fighting means you still want it to work.
c/anxiety·5 points·4mo ago
on What is the best thing to do when you feel anxious — how do I stop it quickly?
I watch nature videos of animals in their natural habitat with relaxing music. So much love in that.
c/trauma·3 points·5mo ago
on Why do I freeze instead of fight or flight? I feel like I'm broken.
Going in circles is often the work, not proof that you're failing the work.