c/relationships·Posted by u/amber_cole·2mo ago
I've been in relationships where I always put in more than I get. How do I know if a man is serious about me?
We can have a decent week and still slam into the same argument like it was waiting for us. I don't even have a clean name for it. I just know it keeps running the day. I'm not looking for a villain. I am looking for whether this can actually change. I keep finding essays that sound right and still don't change Tuesday morning. What would you tell someone who is tired of trying and still not ready to give up?
Peer discussion on askDr.app. Not therapy and not a substitute for professional care.
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u/stillhere_tho2mo ago
Watch the pattern, not the moments. He'll show you who he is consistently — not just when he wants something or when you're upset.
u/omar_farouk2mo ago
If you're the only one reading the books and starting the talks, that's data too.
u/amber_cole2mo ago
This is exactly it. Thank you for putting it into words.