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c/attachment·6 points·16d ago
on Can an anxious attachment person and an avoidant person ever actually work?
Yes, with a LOT of work from both people. But it's the most common pairing — and the most painful.
c/depression·28 points·18d ago
on How do I get out of a depressive rut I've been in for years?
Write out all your goals — long and short term — to ensure you have a reason to get up every day. Update them regularly. Goals are what you want to achieve, personal changes you want to make.
c/general·1 point·29d ago
on What actually helped your mental health that you didn't expect?
Did you figure that out on your own or with someone helping you?
c/general·2 points·29d ago
on What actually helped your mental health that you didn't expect?
Yeah. The body gets there before the story does.
c/depression·7 points·1mo ago
on People usually ask me why I'm depressed. I never know how to explain it. How do I do it?
The 'fine at work, empty at home' split is so lonely. I see you.
c/relationships·2 points·1mo ago
on Is it normal to love someone but not be in love with them anymore?
The 'not weakness' part is what I keep forgetting in the moment.
c/relationships·1 point·1mo ago
on Is it normal to love someone but not be in love with them anymore?
If you have a specific practice that helped, I'd love the unglamorous version.
c/anxiety·2 points·2mo ago
on I've tried basically everything. I don't know what's left.
Did you figure that out on your own or with someone helping you?
c/attachment·16 points·2mo ago
on What are the different attachment styles and do all individuals have an insecure attachment?
Attachment styles vary by relationship and context. You may be securely attached to one person and anxiously attached to another. It's not fixed — it's relational.
c/self-esteem·15 points·2mo ago
on How do I build self-esteem when everything in my life feels like proof that I'm not good enough?
Start with small acts of integrity — do what you say you'll do, for yourself. Even tiny things.
c/personality·7 points·2mo ago
on How do I know if I have schizoid personality disorder vs. just being very introverted?
Schizoid PD involves a lack of whole object relations — you see people as either all good or all bad with no middle ground. You also struggle to experience emotion internally, not just express it externally.
c/personality·6 points·2mo ago
on How do I know if I am a narcissist or not?
I needed this today more than I want to admit.