c/trauma·Posted by u/chris_moretti·1h ago
How do you visit family for a weekend without losing two months of progress?
I've had a decent couple of months. Sleep is more regular. I cook on weeknights. I even went to a birthday dinner and stayed. Now there's a cousin's thing at my parents' house in two weeks and I can already feel myself packing the old version of me. The one who goes quiet at the table and then needs a week to remember she's allowed to have a Tuesday that belongs to her. I want to go. I also don't want to donate two months of feeling like a person for one weekend of being "easy." If you've gone home without losing the ground you were standing on, what did you protect on purpose? A leaving time? A friend who texts you at 9? I need the boring version, not a speech about being strong.
Peer discussion on askDr.app. Not therapy and not a substitute for professional care.
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u/ben_okonkwo1h ago
I drive myself even when it's wasteful on gas. Being able to leave at 8 without waiting on someone else's car is the whole strategy. Not noble. Just a door I control.
u/jade_c1h ago
My friend texts "weather?" at 9 which is code for are you okay. I step onto the porch like I'm checking the sky. Works even if I only reply "cloudy."
u/sophie_lang1h ago
Are you sleeping in your old room? That's what undoes me. A cheap air mattress in the living room after everyone goes to bed has been better than the twin bed with the old lamp.
u/jordan_hale59m ago
I keep my weekday cooking going in my head like a dare. Saturday I still make the same eggs I make at home. Sounds small. Stops the whole weekend from turning me back into a guest in my own life.