c/trauma·Posted by u/ben_okonkwo·1h ago
How do you tell a trigger from just a bad day? I keep second-guessing both.
I had a short email from my manager Thursday: "Can we talk tomorrow?" That's it. I slept badly, skipped lunch, and by Friday the meeting was about a spreadsheet. Fine. I felt stupid. Then Saturday I was just... off. Heavy, impatient, didn't want music. No email. No obvious reason. I spent the afternoon trying to decide if I was "triggered" or if I was a person having a crappy day and dressing it up. I don't want to call everything a trigger. I also don't want to talk myself out of a real reaction until I'm a mess on Monday. How do you tell the difference in the moment, not two days later with a tidy explanation? Do you even try to label it, or do you just treat both like "today is harder" and move?
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u/nora_klein1h ago
"Can we talk tomorrow" would wreck my Thursday too. Spreadsheet Friday doesn't erase that. I stopped needing the meeting to be bad for the wait to have been real.
u/theo_ramirez1h ago
I don't label it anymore on the day. I just cut the extra stuff — no big grocery trip, no hard conversations. Saturday-off gets the same treatment as a known hit. Labels I do on Sunday if I even care.
u/jordan_hale58m ago
When you say you didn't want music, was it that everything sounded too sharp, or more like nothing sounded worth putting on? I use that as a clue for me but I don't know if it travels.