c/relationships·Posted by u/lila_nguyen·9h ago

We keep score of who did more this week. How do you stop the spreadsheet in your head?

I can tell you he took the trash Monday and I did bedtime Tuesday through Thursday and he forgot the permission slip Friday. I did not want to become a clerk in my own house. I still have the list. Saturday I snapped about the recycling because the list was full and I needed a receipt. He had worked late. I know that. The scoreboard does not care. We tried a shared notes app for chores and then I was the only one opening it, which became another line on the board. I do not want a prize. I want the feeling that both of us see the week. How do you drop the tally without going back to pretending you do not notice?

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