c/personality·Posted by u/aisha_r·1d ago

Am I actually decisive, or do I just pick fast so nobody waits on me?

People at work say I am decisive. I pick the vendor. I pick the lunch spot. I pick the color of the slide. What they do not see is that I pick the first option that will end the silence. Last Wednesday we were standing in the lobby trying to choose a place for a departing coworker's lunch. Three faces looking at me. I said the sandwich shop on the corner because it was closest, not because I wanted it. I wanted the Thai place. I ate a sandwich and called it leadership. At home I do the same with takeout. Fast yes, later resentment. I do not think I trust my real preference to be worth the pause. How do you tell confidence from just being allergic to people waiting?

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