c/relationships·Posted by u/omar_farouk·1h ago
Why do I pick a fight right when things are going well for a week straight?
We had a good week. She got the project she'd been waiting on. I cooked twice. We even went to that bookstore on Saturday and didn't check our phones. Sunday morning she was making eggs and humming. I heard myself say you always leave the cabinet open, except I said it like an accusation, not a fact. The cabinet was open. That was true. The way I said it was not about the cabinet. She went quiet. The week cracked. I spent the afternoon pretending to work on my laptop feeling like I'd kicked a chair for no reason. This isn't the first time. A calm stretch makes me itchy, like I'm waiting for the other shoe, so I throw the shoe myself. I apologized about the cabinet. She said it's not the cabinet. She's right. I don't know what it is. I don't want to wreck a decent Sunday because I don't trust decent Sundays. Does anyone else ruin a good week on purpose without meaning to?
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u/lila_nguyen1h ago
cabinet open, eggs humming, you going for the throat over a hinge. i've done you always over a wet sponge after a good saturday. the shame after is the worst part.
u/sam_whitaker1h ago
i tell her out loud i'm about to pick a stupid fight, ignore the cabinet. sometimes she laughs and shuts it. sometimes not. naming it mid-sentence has saved two sundays.
u/nora_klein59m ago
waiting for the other shoe so you throw it... that's me. bookstore day, then i invent a problem by 11am. the apology about the cabinet was never going to land. you're right about that.
u/theo_ramirez58m ago
did the rest of sunday stay cracked or did she come back to the eggs? i need to know if these are one-hour wrecks or whole-day ones. mine are usually whole-day if i don't catch it.