c/personality·Posted by u/marcus_quinn·16h ago

How do I stop performing chill when I actually have a preference?

Friday my friends were picking a movie. I said I'm good with whatever. I was not. I hate jump scares and I knew they were heading toward one. I sat through it with my jaw locked and then said it was fine in the parking lot. Someone asked if I was okay and I did the laugh. I wanted Thai food too, not pizza, and I still said pizza is perfect. I am tired of being the easy vote. I am also scared that if I pick, I become the difficult one and people stop asking me. Last Tuesday I almost said the diner on Elm, then swallowed it. How do you put a real preference down without feeling like you kicked the table?

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