c/attachment·Posted by u/elena_v·1h ago

Why do I feel abandoned when my partner takes hours to reply during work?

Yesterday I sent him a photo of my lunch at 12:14 — just a stupid sandwich from the place by my office — and I didn't get anything back until 4:47. I know he has back-to-back calls on Tuesdays. I have seen his calendar. I still sat at my desk refreshing the thread like the lack of a heart emoji meant something had changed since breakfast. By 2pm I had a whole story: he's cooling off, last weekend was too much, I talked too long about my sister. I almost sent "are we okay?" three times and deleted it. When he finally replied it was "looks good, in a meeting, love you" and I felt stupid and also still shaky. I don't actually think he's cheating or leaving. The hours just feel like a hallway I get left in. Has anyone figured out how to let a workday be a workday without turning the silence into a verdict?

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