c/attachment·Posted by u/jade_c·1h ago

How do I sit with the urge to double-text without sending the second one?

I asked if he wanted to come to my sister's thing on Saturday. He said "let me see" at 3:12. At 3:41 I typed "no pressure either way!" and stared at it on the bus. At 4:05 I added a second draft: a joke, then a "or we can do something smaller." I have not sent them. I have opened the thread eleven times. The unsent ones feel like they're leaking out of me. If I send them I know I'll watch the timestamps like a hawk. If I don't send them I feel rude, like I left him with a demand. It's always the second text that turns me into a manager of his feelings. How do you ride out that specific itch — the double-text — without either exploding or going ice-cold?

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