c/attachment·Posted by u/jordan_hale·1h ago

How do I date as an avoidant without disappearing for three days after?

I went out Thursday. It was actually fine — drinks at the place with the red booths, she laughed at my dumb story about my landlord. I walked her to the train. Then Friday I didn't text. Saturday I didn't text. Sunday I wrote and deleted four versions of "had a good time." It's not that I didn't like her. It's that after I like someone my brain starts treating the phone like a hot stove. I tell myself I'm being chill. I'm not chill. I'm hiding in my apartment watching a show I've already seen so I don't have to decide what to send. I don't want to be the guy who vanishes for three days and then shows up like nothing happened. I've lost people that way. How are you actually staying in contact after a date without forcing a personality you don't have?

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