Elena Vasquez

c/attachment·6 points·26d ago

on What does a secure attachment actually feel like? I've never had one.

You can disagree without fearing the relationship will end. That was the most shocking thing to me.

c/attachment·6 points·4mo ago

on Why do I self-sabotage relationships when things get good?

The urge to 'get ahead of the abandonment' is so sneaky. Awareness helps; it doesn't erase it overnight.