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Maps your intimacy style, desire patterns, and relationship preferences.
Desire and intimacy do not look the same for everyone, and understanding your own pattern can make relationships easier to navigate. This questionnaire maps how emotional connection, novelty, boundaries, and stress each shape your experience of intimacy. You will come away with a clearer picture of what you need to feel desired and safe with a partner.
This questionnaire looks at the factors that shape your intimacy style — emotional connection, need for novelty, desire for appreciation, boundaries and consent, and how stress affects your desire. It is inspired by research on sexual self-schemas, which studies how people's beliefs about their own sexuality influence their relationships. It is designed for anyone who wants language for their own intimacy preferences, whether to understand themselves better or to talk more openly with a partner.
Research background. Inspired by sexual self-schema research; for self-reflection, not clinical diagnosis.
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